So, this is the year right? The year that everyone is destined for greatness. Well, I am just saying this because it is what I have seen most from people, if I may use Instagram as a point of reference. Honestly though, it is the one application that people open more often than they do kindle. Is it that we are doing a real version of keeping up with the Kardashian but more or less replacing the Kardashians with other people?
I am saying this because I am guilty, as it is I have had a thing in the previous year, I don’t want to say a bad habit because depending on how you see it, it may be a point of motivation or discouragement… yeah? I guess we all agree, but I guess I am willing to stop this and other stuff (more like stopping the negative part of it)
So, for this year I am trying to
- Give myself a chance to fail
Sounds very weird to say that but I am certain I am not the only one who beats herself up for not getting it right the first time. I know it is almost impossible to but hey! Sometimes I can hardly control that.
- Give as much time and fearfully support people in my life
For sure, I have slacked at this, considering the amount of workload I have from university and the things I have to do as well for the weekends, life gets a little overwhelming and I sometimes find myself repositioning the order of importance and that does not mean that I necessarily put the right things first and others to follow, with a tried mind most of the time you end up actually prioritising things that are not the most important and then a week later you realise you haven’t spoken to family, not checked up on your best of friends, not even given much effort in support people I love, and this is really important because just little push from people that mean a lot to you surely does help bring up the motivation be it lost or just dormant. I know from experience, and thus I am going to really try as much as I can to not be the bad friend that life is trying to make me.
- Let God
I know now you’re just like “ so you never do ?“ well, happens that I have my moments where I do try to control things that are not controllable, which in turn, turns on the frustration button and it moves it immediately to a high… not even like a middle portion of it ; it just moves to full on high, but I learned the hard way last December where most things I couldn’t control much and to start with the weather and that cut off the number of posts I had planned to do because I was not able to take photographs and it was also hard considering the cold and being a self- portrait photographer was just a no-no in that cold, so that leaves me to shoot whenever I can, and just when the weather is good .
And with that! I apologise for little blog action… but on the bright side I do more videos which are mostly done in the house but are worth your time to watch x
- Meet people more A.K.A go out more
Yeah, maybe I do go out more than I should but that is usually not for the right reasons, so I am hoping to promise myself to try and connect more, and in connecting I mean… trying to connect more with people in the industry and for a fun fact that there is not a single black blogger in Scotland… wish me luck! Please.
- Appreciate people more
This is a thing I did a lot in 2017 and the smiles it brought to people’s faces just lit me up as well. I started by giving myself a goal to say thank you and some other kind words to 5 people in a day, where if I saw someone wearing a cute outfit, I went to them and told them you know what? You have a beautiful skirt, or you’re looking great today. Whether or not I knew them. One thing I got from that small act is that, it surely makes someone’s day, and I’m one for if I make your day, I sure as well did make mine too. My most amazing moment is when I actually thanked conductors and matatu drivers in Kenya (when I was on holiday) for getting me to various places… Try it, it works, since it is something they least expect.
Well I will try those first and then when I need to add on more to it I definitely will… but for now I guess we’ll start the year with these Big 5.
Do let me know, is there anything you’d love to try this year? And how do you plan on achieving that?
Coat – From this previous post (M&S)
Dress- Marks and spencer
Neckpiece – H&M
Heels – Faith at Debenhams